The Enemy Within: There's A Bigot In My House

July 22, 2009

By Meghan Chavalier

 

I always like to share life events with all of our readers because I know that someone must be going through the same thing as I am when I write them, and in turn I hope that my stories help you to know that you are not alone in the world.

My partner and I have been together for 8 years. We have a very solid relationship, but there's just one problem, make that two, his mother and his stepfather.

The problems started when we first met, and I knew that his mother didn't like me. She always professed to love me, but I always knew there was a monster lurking beneath the mask.

The whole thing didn't come to light until we had a falling out with his parents a week ago when we told her we no longer wanted her to work for us at our restaurant because she was making it impossible to have a pleasant work day and quite honestly none of our employees wanted to work with her any longer either because she is a very difficult person to get along with.

We asked her to remove her things from our restaurant. My boyfriend was there and his older sister. This was nothing more than a business choice and family and business sometimes just don't mix well.

At one point she told Eric's sister, "If Meghan had any balls, oh wait she does, she would be here." And the stepfather proceeded to say, "You're right whatever the hell "it" is," and then said it again but even louder in the street outside of our restaurant.

So basically after 8 years their bigotry finally came to light. Everything I thought all along had been true, and they just put it in stone.

First, if you are transgender nobody has the right to call you "it" and considering I am their son's girlfriend they are in turn not saying the nicest things about him either.

Just because someone is related to you, doesn't give them the right to say hateful bigoted things. This is a hate crime. What they said about me is a hate crime. My only concern is my partner, who I feel so bad for knowing that his parent's don't respect his decisions in his life, and definitely don't condone his choice in a partner.

I am a strong person, I can take anything someone wants to feed me, no matter how ridiculous or disgusting it may sound, but I don't condone bigots who hide behind a mask pretending to accept someone when they've hated them all along.

I know I'm not alone in the world. I have a family who loves me, I have friends who love me and I have a partner who loves me no matter what gender I am.

I guess what I'm trying to say here is that you don't always know the people you let come into your home, who you welcome into your life, because underneath all of it, can be a person who doesn't have your best interest at heart. In fact, they have no heart at all.

I choose to live and learn. I have learned that you can't trust everyone just because you know them but you can choose who you have in your life. Luckily they are not my family and I don't have to have them in my life.